In this episode you will hear:
- How holding in your truth negatively impacts you
- How resentment leads to cancer according to research
- How to teach your parents to be courageous in conflicts with you
- How you can be triggered by an unrelated issue if you hold in pain
- How we can misinterpret other people’s behavior when we are holding in pain
- How the victim/villain paradigm can often just be in your head
- When you stomach bad behavior for the sake of harmony you are actually just being inauthentic in that relationship
Coaching Questions & Thoughts:
Where in your life can you be more honest about how you really feel?
Where in your life are you avoiding a conflict that you know needs to get resolved?
Think about what you need from the person. Do you need an apology? Do you need them to do something that will make it up to you or rebuild rapport? Your needs are important, so honor them.
“When you hold pain in for the sake of harmony, it doesn’t serve you.” Shereen Thor
“An unresolved pain point will rise up in the form of an overreaction to something unrelated.” Shereen Thor
“Misinterpretations are inevitable in communication, so the idea that we can go through life avoiding conflict resolution is unreasonable.” Shereen Thor
“Research has proven that resentment leads to cancer.” Shereen Thor
“When you avoid resolving conflict you avoid honoring your personal boundaries.” Shereen Thor