In this episode you will hear:
- What it means when you trigger someone and why it’s so confusing when you do
- What you should (and shouldn’t) do when someone’s made up an inaccurate story about you inside their head
- How to turn a triggering moment into a moment of healing
- What co-dependent people need to look out for specifically when it comes to conflict resolution
- Why you should seek to understand during conflict, but not assume full responsibility for it
- My 5-Step Productive Conflict Resolution Process (including the ONE step almost everyone forgets to do)
- How avoiding conflict will keep you from experiencing peace, happiness, and joy
- And my favorite style of relationship therapy that I’ve used to heal many conflicts in my life
Coaching Questions & Thoughts:
- Is there anyone in your life right now who might be triggered by you changing?
- If so, how is that conflict showing up, and what could it be a call to heal?
- In this conflict (or a past, recent conflict), did you allow yourself to speak authentically about how you were affected? If you didn’t, how would you now?
- Have you ever experienced what it was like to “make it right” after a conflict was resolved? If so, what did that look like?
- What are some ways you could close the loop on a current or recent conflict?
Fun Quotes from the Show:
“When you’ve triggered someone, it’s likely triggering their past trauma. So they’re seeing you through the lens of their past trauma.” – Shereen Thor
“It’s always a good idea in conflict to seek to understand and to seek to listen.” – Shereen Thor
“If you do it right, triggers can be really beautiful because you can trigger healing.” – Shereen Thor
“When you cut yourself off from sad, you also cut yourself off from glad. They’re two sides of the same coin.” – Shereen Thor
“Things are not black and white. Things are not right and wrong. Things are more gray than we’d like to admit when you’re navigating through conflicts.” – Shereen Thor
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